“S-Anon Twelve Steps” Available Electronically

“S-Anon Twelve Steps” Available Electronically

 September 20, 2016

S-Anon Twelve Steps eBookS-Anon’s book, S-Anon Twelve Steps, is now available in eBook format for both the english and spanish versions.  S-Anon Twelve Steps is a sharing of the collective experience of the S-Anon International Family Groups fellowship; this book offers hope for recovery to people whose lives have been affected by sexaholism by showing how members have put the principles of the Twelve Steps into practice.

Download your english or spanish copy today through the SIFG Online Store!

Focusing on Me

 September 15, 2016

It was fall of 2006. I had been attending S-Anon meetings for a few months, but had not yet begun to write out the steps.  I was starting to absorb some ideas about what healthy and unhealthy behaviors in me looked like.  For example, I heard at meetings that checking on the sexaholic was injurious to me and created turmoil in my daily living. (My home group refers to it as “pain-shopping.”) I also knew that focusing on my own behaviors, feelings, and motivations was helpful.  Focusing/obsessing about the sexaholic in my life was not helpful and could be harmful (to me.)  Trying to fix myself and change my own faulty thinking was helpful and trying to fix/change and control my husband and others was crazy-making.

Although I was on the right path, and hearing and reading about all kinds of good recovery ideas, there were some practical lessons to be learned along the way.  My behaviors hadn’t begun to change yet. I thought that checking on the behavior of others, and knowing what they were doing would keep me safe. “Progress, not perfection.”  (I do so love the slogans of this program–they are very affirming.)  I believed in my heart that the program was going to help me, yet I hadn’t discovered that S-Anon and the ensuing Step-work was going to change my life in ways that I never dreamed possible.


Hearing My Higher Power

 September 8, 2016

I was angry with God, and felt that God had been punishing me. I would never have believed that a group of people could be part of my Higher Power. I would have thought that would be sacrilegious or something, but I see now how that works, and how God speaks through every one of us. I just could not have healed from the shame in my life without looking into other people’s eyes and seeing other faces and the nodding of their heads. When somebody in S-Anon says, “Yeah, I know how you feel,” they really do know! It’s as if they grew up in my house or were married to my husband. That has been very comforting and necessary for me as I have grown in the S-Anon program.


Reprinted from S-Anon’s Newcomer’s Information Booklet.

“Reflections of Hope” Available Electronically

 August 31, 2016

Reflections of Hope eBookS-Anon’s book, Reflections of Hope, is now available in eBook format.  Reflections of Hope is S-Anon’s first daily meditation book; it embraces the voices of S-Anon men, women and teens, all touched by the effects of another person’s sexual behavior. This collection of readings reflects the hope that comes from the experience of banding together to solve our common problems.

Download your copy today through the SIFG Online Store!

Step of the Day

 August 26, 2016

Working the Twelve Steps has become a way of life for me. I carry their simple, yet profound wisdom in my heart and in my head every day. Every morning, no matter how hectic, I take as much time as I possibly can to center myself for the day. Some days I have only a few minutes and some days I may have two hours to read from books of recovery, pray, and quietly sit in meditation. On days that I may only have a few minutes, I silently say the Serenity Prayer and choose one Step that I feel will help me the most during the day. If I don’t have an immediate feel for how my day will progress, I use the Step that correlates to the current month. I try to insert that Step into my day wherever possible. It always amazes me that there are always situations, thoughts, or feelings during any given day where my Step of the Day can be used. I find there is a need for me to use all twelve of the Steps in some way every day. By focusing daily on just one of the Twelve Steps, their meaning and their effectiveness on the quality of my daily life is made clearer to me.


Courage to Change the Things I Can

 August 19, 2016

I am learning to trust myself to rise to the occasion as a problem presents itself.  I will have the resources when I need them.  I don’t have to control the outcome but can learn to trust the process.  This allows me to be less afraid of the future.  I am learning to accept change and not automatically see it as the end of the world or negative, but rather an opportunity for growth.


Reprinted from Working the S-Anon Program, page 42.

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