Step Three suggests that we make a decision to surrender our lives, one day at a time, to our Higher Power, and for most of us this involved both a formal decision and a process. We first made a decision to turn over our efforts to control or ignore the sexaholism of our loved one and our reactions to it. The peace of mind and serenity that results from daily practice of this Step made us increasingly willing to surrender more and more areas of our lives until we found ourselves truly wanting to turn over our entire will and lives to the care of God as we understood God. We found that surrender was no longer a dreadful prospect, it was our freedom from mental and emotional slavery.
Reprinted from S-Anon Twelve Steps, page 36.