Reaching Out and Making a Connection

My head is a dangerous neighborhood to go into, so I shouldn’t go there alone. —Anonymous

Once I finally admitted that I was truly powerless over sexaholism and that I could not solve my problems alone, I became willing to pick up the telephone and connect with other S-Anon members. Before that point, I tended to stay in my head, trying to work out my problems on my own. Today, when I sponsor someone who struggles with making program phone calls, I suggest something that was recommended to me when I struggled to make calls: call your sponsor every day and tell her what you are cooking for dinner. This daily ritual offers practice in reaching out and making a connection.

For me, this simple calling ritual was important because developing the habit of daily phone calls when things were going well made it much easier to pick up the phone to discuss a problem when things were not going well. I have often heard my Higher Power speaking through my S-Anon friends on the phone. When someone calls me for support, I ask my Higher Power to help me listen with compassion and provide me with the right words to say.

Reprinted from S-Anon’s Reflections of Hope, page 314.