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When I walked into my first S-Anon meeting, I was searching for advice on how to fix my marriage. While I did not find advice, I did find a group of people who offered me compassion and support. They encouraged me to keep the focus on myself. As I sat in those early meetings, I began to identify people who had what I wanted and might be able to help me. Eventually, I began to pick up the phone. One member in particular was a tremendous help to me. Every time I called her, she offered a perspective that calmed me and brought me a measure of peace.
I soon found out that she was a member of a helping profession, but the help that she generously gave me was from the S-Anon point of view. She shared as a fellow S-Anon member, not as a professional. It made such a difference to receive this kind of care and concern. She wasn’t helping me because I paid her, but as part of her Twelfth Step work. She understood so much of what I was going through because she, too, had been affected by sexaholism. I trusted her because of that and really benefited from her experience, strength, and hope.
Reprinted from S-Anon Twelve Traditions, page 133.