Our understanding of our Higher Power is not really a matter of logic. Few of us can be reasoned or argued into faith. Belief in a wise, powerful and loving God usually comes from seeing a Higher Power at work in our own lives. To see this power at work, we have to give God something to work with. Let’s begin with ourselves.
Exactly how can we turn our wills and our lives over to God? We make a decision to conform to God’s will instead of our own. We are the only ones who can make that decision. When we begin to conform to God’s will, we are on the right track. “Not my will but thine be done” is the motto for Step Three. As the alcoholics put it, “Our whole trouble had been the misuse of willpower. We had tried to bombard our problems with it instead of attempting to bring it into agreement with God’s intention for us.”
We found it helpful to take this Step with a loved one, best friend or spiritual advisor, but it is better to meet God alone in this than to do it with someone who cannot accept our understanding. Our words, of course, are up to us as long as we sincerely express our hearts.
Having the best intentions and motives for what we do is not always a guarantee we will do the right thing. Simply having faith in a Higher Power is not enough. We have to surrender our will and our lives over and over again. Now, in all times of emotional disturbance and indecision, we can pause, get quiet, and in that stillness let go of our problems and worries. We can have the confidence that we have an ever-present help in times of need.
Reprinted from S-Anon Twelve Steps, page 2.