We learned to depend upon a real Higher Power—one with the strength and wisdom to help us in times of need and indecision. Anyone can begin to tap into this source; the key to Step Three was the willingness to allow a Higher Power to take a hand in our lives.
Some of us did not have any concept of God when we first came to S-Anon. Some of us had leaned heavily on other people, or tried to please them without regard for our own well-being, in effect making another person (especially the sexaholics in our lives) into a “Higher Power.” Many of us were angry or uncomfortable with the concept of God that we had learned early in our lives. But as we shed old ideas that made us feel isolated or unworthy, we began to understand new and hopeful spiritual concepts. We grew in the faith that a loving and caring Higher Power would guide and protect us. Then we were able to make a decision to trust in that care and seek to do God’s will instead of our own.
Reprinted from Working the S-Anon Program, 2nd Edition, page 24.