Sharing at meetings is one type of Twelfth-Step work. We do not need many years of recovery or a gift for public speaking in order to carry the message. There is no need to worry about saying the right thing. We just speak from the heart about how we are using or trying to use the tools of the program in our own lives. We try to focus on the solution and the experience, strength, and hope we are finding in S-Anon, rather than on specific details about our problems. We seldom share all the details about our situation at our S-Anon meeting. Instead, we can share more specifics with our sponsor or another member at another time.
It takes courage to share at meetings. We may have trouble trusting others with what we have to share. We have varied experiences of being affected by sexaholism and sometimes feel isolated. The important thing is that we want to recover from the effects on us of another person’s sexual addiction.
Reprinted from Working the S-Anon Program, 2nd Edition, page 99.